THE MATRIARCHAL WOLRD OF MR. LOUISE

(Editor’s Note: Here is a little treasure rescued from the long defunct “Spousechat” message board, which was active between 2001 and 2003. Originally intended as a networking site for the husbands of breadwinner wives, Spousechat spontaneously became a hangout for passionate advocates for “matriarchal marriages” in which husbands (like Mr. Louise) played enthusiastically supportive roles. The only substantial excerpts I’m aware of are on Mark Remond’s Worshihpping Your Wife blog.)

MR. LOUISE:

I am happy to see a support network like this for men just like myself and strong, capable women like Mrs. Louise. She is a rock and a tower of strength and I’m glad to submit to her in any way I can. We were married last year and were fully aware of our roles before we walked down the aisle. I took her name. No, not secretly and not just on paper. We walked into our reception as Ms. and Mr. D. (her name) and I’ve never looked back.

We are glad we have found a church (Unitarian) and a community (a support group of house husbands) that support our matriarchal lifestyle. We are sure that Goddess has intended our union to be wife-centered and wife led. She is the authority I recognize and submit to, and in turn she loves, cherishes and supports me.

I urge all men to submit completely: not just sexually. That is the easy part. Submit to your wife’s discipline (yes, we believe in loving marital discipline), her control over the finances, her right to make decisions with or without consulting you. In our house, this has led to the blessings of matriarchy: greater harmony, peace, and togetherness. Recognize the image of your Heavenly Mother in your wife each day and you will submit naturally and feel good doing it!

MR. LOUISE:

Ms. Louise has asked me to write a short description of my spirituality and how matriarchy has helped our lives together. First of all, my spouse support group began as a discussion group at my Unitarian church in the Metro DC area. It was a biblical discussion group for husbands of women in leadership roles. Our moderator is a wonderful married deaconess in the church who is also a successful administrator of a senior citizens' community. She teaches the class with her husband who remains silent. We choose to worship God the Mother, Queen, and Creator of Nature.

Our study revolves around the Mother’s plan for our wives as representing Her being the Queen of her household; being the Mother of our home; the Mistress of our financial lives; the Lady whom we serve; and our Teacher/Matron. I can say that many in our group are in various stages of submission to our wives but our goal is to achieve better and perfect submission to our wives.

My wife is the absolute center of our home. I have learned complete submission of our finances (though I work, I get an allowance), our home (which means my wife decides all with my loving help, and gives me maternal discipline), and our sex life (which means she decides when, where, and how, which for me as for all submissive men is a thrill).

MS. LYNDA:

In your group, how many men are known by their wife’s last name? How many of these men have children? Are they raising the children to appreciate matriarchy?

MR. LOUISE:

Most are legally, but all are known that way in our personal group. Only a few couples (five) have had a chance for children yet and, yes, I do believe that all of those husbands are the primary caretaker. They love their beautiful kids (ages between 2 and 12) and teach them about the honor of Mommy’s special leadership role and daddy’s beautiful and loving submission to Mommy per Mother God’s wondrous plan in their lives.

I for one firmly believe that in our wickedly male-obsessed society that a boy should be taught to submit to his Mother God and pray each night that She will send to him a Woman to govern him with as much love and wisdom as his Mommy has. And, though I know few people agree, I do think boy children should be physically disciplined and punished by their mothers only. And I don’t think girls should be physically punished in any way, and least of all by their fathers! A Girl needs room to explore just how God has made her different, and responsible—not just for herself but for her future husband who, Goddess willing, will serve her faithfully. But boys need boundaries and discipline set exclusively by their mothers, or they’ll never learn in our society how to give true submission to their future wives from their deepest heart and soul.

MR. LOUISE:

Any one of our friends know just what I mean when I jokingly say I am under my wife’s skirt and that our marriage is “a petticoat government.” They can see her obvious maternal/matriarchal control over our house and accept us. It is no secret. My greatest thrill in our social life is when we have a few friends over and the wives all talk openly to each other and the men are finally lulled by Ms. Louise’s dominance and their own wives into quiet, sensible submission. The sound of male quiet during female conversation is the music of a matriarchal home. If I excitedly offer my opinion, Ms. Louise often returns me to my place with a loving chide: "Honey, please, the women are speaking now." And that is the motto of our matriarchy: the women are speaking now; men, you’ve had your chance, and please be silent.”

Now, boys, if you will excuse me, I’m going to go and draw Ms. Louise a nice, long hot bath with rose hips and sandalwood oil and fix her tea. She”s spent all night at the office and is waiting for my attention. I, as I hope all matriarchal men, would rather wash and massage her body, shave her legs, get her silky robe, spray her aroma therapy, put on her soft music and just listen to her day over chocolate and sparkling wine than almost anything else in the Godess’ world.

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