BECKIE SUE ON FEMALE SUPERIORITY & FEMALE LED FAMILIES

(Some of the following material appeared years ago in various posts on Mark Remond’s Worshipping Your Wife  blog. They are reprinted here with permission. Additional observations from the incomparable Beckie Sue have never before been published.—Thomas Lavalle)

A Female Led Family

I think it is important to make clear that we are not just a "female led marriage" but we are a "female led family."

Our daughters are always having their friends over. One and all are aware that the girls’ father is the one who does all the housework. They are there when he comes home from work and starts right in on dinner, or perhaps the laundry, while I am there reading or otherwise enjoying myself on our deck. Our daughters’  friends are right there and hear me tell him to do a certain chore and he never argues.

Their brother is always there as well. He is very obedient to his sisters’ "requests." They usually ask him "Will you..." but I know that it is really an order. Their friends are comfortable in telling him what to do, as well.

In witnessing our female led home, our daughters’ girlfriends know it is more than I, it is my daughters as well who rule. The girls have had many discussions on female superiority among themselves, and all of them are in agreement that as females they are superior. I have overheard them talk about having boys worship them and wanting to be goddesses.

They are learning together.

The Best Interests of our Daughters

Do we really think the interests of our son are less important than the interests of our daughters? That the opinions, desires and hobbies of our daughters are more important than his? Just because they are female and he is male?

Throughout history, girls were taught that men were more important, that the goals of men were more important than their own. In a female led home, girls need to learn to lead males. And, yes, because they are female, they need to understand the importance of seeking and pursuing hobbies and activities that will fulfill them.

As a male, their brother understands that sometimes he needs to forgo his own interests so that his sisters may have the opportunity to pursue theirs. If he was always allowed to pursue whatever he wanted, often the girls would not be able to enjoy what they want, or to the extent that they want. Brothers need to learn the importance of always placing the female first, helping her become the woman she can be.

So, yes, in my view the importance of a brother’s interests are less important than the interests of his sisters; they need to be for girls to be able to lead in their home, and in society.

On Female Led Homes

I find that female led households are not as controversial today as they used to be. I am sure that many (if not most) homes are female led, though most are reluctant to admit it. Women are finding it more natural for them and their husbands for the woman to lead in their home.

Sons and daughters need both parents as role models for their lives. Our son sees his father doing all the work around the home, all the housework as well as all the yardwork, mechanical and maintenance chores, etc. My husband understands the importance of serving women so the females are able to pursue their more important interests. My husband has taught our son the importance of obeying not only his mother, but also his sisters.

Our daughters see the benefits of a female led family. Like their mother, they are learning how to lead a family. They don't have that authority yet but they can see how a family is closer when females are in charge.

There are no problems with a daughter being in charge of her father, as long as she is an adult (out of high school). If she has been raised in a female led family, she is qualified. As a mature adult female, she will not lose any respect for her father by being charge of him. On the contrary, this relationship will bring them closer.

Our daughters are still in their teens. When I have gone out for the day, their father is in charge, and they know to obey him. But they are permitted to remind him of things. Recently I found my husband watching TV instead of getting his chores done. (He is not permitted to watch any TV for this reason.) I told our oldest daughter (with father’s knowledge) to keep an eye on him and remind him the chores need to be finished by his 10 p.m. bedtime. He admits having her present helps him focus on all his work and keep him from breaking any of his rules.

He has a great deal of respect for our daughters because of their self-confidence and experience in learning to lead in the home. They are all aware that, as adults, the females will always lead the males.

A girl should be allowed to tell (not ask) her father what to do. Many comments have been made about how a daughter would lose respect for her father if she was allowed to boss him around. That is incorrect. Daughters lose respect for their fathers when their fathers are bossy to them, when their fathers act better than their mother. A girl’s respect toward her father only grows when she sees how he can be obedient to the ladies in his life. She learns respect for her father when he cleans her room and washes her clothes. Our daughters highly respect their father at supper when their brother and father stand and wait for the girls to sit and allow the females to fill their plates and start eating before being permitted to start their own dinner.

A mother is the one who needs to teach her daughters how to lead, what is right, what to expect from men. A daughter needs to learn to lead both brothers and father through the eyes of her mother. Yes, a girl will make mistakes, sometimes hurting the males in the family. But they must accept it, and she will learn through the experience.

I never liked the idea that some men are submissive. Men are by nature obedient. Through school (in the past), sports, military, and jobs they are required to be obedient, much more so than women. It is their nature to be obedient and to work. It is the nature of the female to be sexual/sensual and to direct the men in their lives. If daughters don't learn this in their home, they will have a hard time when they get older. And if sons don't learn obedience in their home, and from watching their father, they will not grow up properly.

Female Superiority at Home: What woman wouldn’t want to have a marriage where what she said was final, where her husband would obey her and desire her. What wife wouldn’t want a home where the housework, cleaning, laundry, washing dishes, scrubbing the bathroom, was her husband’s job; she would be free to pursue more fulfilling interests? How many would enjoy those more fulfilling pursuits during the day while he is at work earning money for her to enjoy? What wife wouldn’t love to have control of his paycheck and manage all the finances? What female wouldn’t love to be worshiped as a goddess?

If only men could understand that female superiority would be the ideal for them. Men are created for worship. Women are created to receive worship.

Indeed, most men worship women in one way or another without necessarily using the term. But how many women want to worship a man? None that I know of.

In order for females to be worshipped, they naturally have to be superior to men. If we are to be worshiped, are we not goddesses? Who would ever call a man a “god”? That would be blasphemous.

I believe our society is moving quickly to female superiority in all areas. Yes, all females are superior; they are born that way, it is not something they learn. But we do need to learn, and accept, that we are superior. It is hard for women to understand how we are born superior, it is just in our nature.

Men understand that much better. The husband is to “love, worship, and obey” his wife. Her protection, her well-being, her desires, her pleasure, and her comfort are his primary concern, and he would, if called upon to do so, lay down his life for her.

A few years ago, I sat my husband down and told him if I was going to make the decisions, I demanded he obey me without question. Here are some new household arrangements I instituted as a result of that “discussion”:

Housework: My husband does almost all of it. It is his job, to be expected of him. I do not micromanage him, or stand over him telling him what to do. He knows his chores and does them well. I offered to help with some, but he told me I didn’t need to bother with mundane housework when I should be pursuing more fulfilling things.

Finances: I decided to close our joint checking account. My husband now deposits his paycheck into my personal account to which he has no access. He is to keep $10 on him at all times and let me know if he spends any so I can give him more. He gets no allowance. After closing the one account I started paying bills and managing all finances. We use MS Money so he still doesn’t have access to any money himself.

Children: We have 2 daughters 15 and 10, and a son 13. Any expression of wife worship is hidden from them. But as a family we do show female superiority. My husband and son both open doors for us, and both stand whenever my daughters or I enter a room and remain till we are seated.

The same holds for dinner; they stand till we are seated and allow us to fill our plates and start eating before they fill their plates. Our son helps his father clean the table and dries the dishes.

A few months ago, they discussed if our son would want to do something special for his sisters to show his awareness of their female superiority. He chose to make their beds and straighten their rooms every morning. The girls are not allowed to tell him what to do, but may ask him politely to do something or get her something. He is not required to obey, but, as mentioned earlier, he takes their requests as an order and still obeys. His father has been a good mentor.

Every family is different with different ways to do things. Everything here sounds like we have it down perfect, but we have problems and daily issues come up to deal with.

Are our boys always obedient and worshipful? Yeah, right! As they say, life happens. They need to be reminded by the females who they are. Female superiority is natural, and someday will be accepted by everyone, but we all have a lot to learn about it.

A wife who understands female superiority has had to come to the realization that her husband is inferior, and women have a hard time thinking of their husbands in a negative term like inferior, despite the overwhelming evidence. But once a wife sees herself as superior, she will find it easier to accept a husband’s worship. And I truly believe that most husbands today understand, even if subconsciously, that they are inferior to their wives.

Husbands who accept female superiority as a fact, and their own consequent inferiority, as my husband does, would have no problem after they came home from work and started in on dinner and their chores.

My husband does accept and understand his inferiority. He knows he has to obey me even when he disagrees. He comes home from a hard days work (where they don't have A/C!) and, after taking a shower, start supper, clean after supper and do many other chores. He is no longer allowed to watch TV (takes his focus away from focusing on my desires, and takes too long to get it back), has to be in bed by 10 pm (works 6:30 - 3pm). After working all week, never sees or has access to any of the money he earns.

He has accepted all this to worship me. He does it for me. I am the lucky one. I can enjoy myself doing something I love and come home to a hot cooked meal. The guys wait till us girls start to eat and they take what is left over. I have the evening to enjoy with the kids, watch something on TV, or go out with some girlfriends and come home late and not have to explain anything to him. I can sleep late and wake up to fresh coffee, he has to put on another pot when he leaves for work.

I can spend money on whatever I want (within my budget). He occasionally has to work a Saturday. That extra money goes to me, allows me to buy something special, which I show him so he knows what his overtime bought me. (He specifically requested that I do this.)

I don't want to discuss our sex life, but I pursue it when I want it, not him. And I am worshipped.

Should a wife be allowed to pursue her pleasure whenever she wants?

There are many blogs out there where the husband has a fantasy about his wife having sex with other men. For most I am sure this is just a fantasy, and in real life they would be devastated; or perhaps this should be allowed in the marriage. I have yet to read anywhere that a wife would want the husband to be with another female.

After reading these articles, my husband and I discussed this. Even when I am not interested in intercourse with him, I usually feel very sexual. He admitted he often thinks of me with another man, and it excites him. When he in doing his housework, or following a direct order from me, he thinks of me having sex with a couple of men I am friends with.

I asked if I had his permission to be with them. His response was that I don't need to ask for his permission for anything I do. He wants me to pursue anything that pleases me, from buying a new dress to making love to my friends.

I have no interest in sex with anyone outside of our marriage. But a couple of years ago at a company Christmas party, things got a little wild. Another co-worker and I had a nice long kiss while my husband watched. When it was over, I turned to my husband and told him to get my friend and me a drink, while I sat down next to him. My husband obeyed and brought us back our drinks while the co-worker kept his hand on my thigh. That has been a recurring fantasy of his.

I think an acceptable alternative to cuckolding is for wives to feel free to kiss other men as I have; masturbate as often as she likes with him watching and always deny him, dress sexy for other men, or watch adult movies but not him. A wife should always be encouraged to allow herself the pleasures he is denied.

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(Note to readers: Mark Remond informs me he has lost contact with Beckie Sue, so it is unlikely that any reader comments or questions addressed to her will be responded to.)