(Some of the following material
appeared years ago in various posts on Mark Remond’s Worshipping Your Wife blog. They are reprinted here with permission. Additional observations from
the incomparable Beckie Sue have never before been
published.—Thomas Lavalle)
A Female Led FamilyI think it is important to make clear that we are not just a "female led marriage" but we are a "female led family."
Our daughters are always having their friends
over. One and all are aware that the girls’ father is the one who does all the
housework. They are there when he comes home from work and starts right in on
dinner, or perhaps the laundry, while I am there reading or otherwise enjoying
myself on our deck. Our daughters’ friends are right there and hear me tell him
to do a certain chore and he never argues.
Their brother is always there as well. He is very
obedient to his sisters’ "requests." They usually ask him "Will
you..." but I know that it is really an order. Their friends are
comfortable in telling him what to do, as well.
In witnessing our female led home, our daughters’
girlfriends know it is more than I, it is my daughters as well who rule. The
girls have had many discussions on female superiority among themselves, and all
of them are in agreement that as females they are superior. I have overheard
them talk about having boys worship them and wanting to be goddesses.
They are learning together.
The Best
Interests of our Daughters
Do we really think the interests of our son are
less important than the interests of our daughters? That the opinions, desires
and hobbies of our daughters are more important than his? Just because they are
female and he is male?
Throughout history, girls were taught that men
were more important, that the goals of men were more important than their own.
In a female led home, girls need to learn to lead males. And, yes, because they
are female, they need to understand the importance of seeking and pursuing hobbies
and activities that will fulfill them.
As a male, their brother understands that
sometimes he needs to forgo his own interests so that his sisters may have the
opportunity to pursue theirs. If he was always allowed to pursue whatever he
wanted, often the girls would not be able to enjoy what they want, or to the
extent that they want. Brothers need to learn the importance of always placing
the female first, helping her become the woman she can be.
So, yes, in my view the importance of a brother’s
interests are less important than the interests of his sisters; they need to be
for girls to be able to lead in their home, and in society.
On Female Led Homes
I find that female led households are not as
controversial today as they used to be. I am sure that many (if not most) homes are female led, though
most are reluctant to admit it. Women are finding it more natural for them and
their husbands for the woman to lead in their home.
Sons and daughters need both parents as role
models for their lives. Our son sees his father doing all the work around the
home, all the housework as well as all the yardwork, mechanical and maintenance
chores, etc. My husband understands the importance of serving women so the
females are able to pursue their more important interests. My husband has
taught our son the importance of obeying not only his mother, but also his
sisters.
Our daughters see the benefits of a female led
family. Like their mother, they are learning how to lead a family. They don't
have that authority yet but they can see how a family is closer when females
are in charge.
There are no problems with a daughter being in
charge of her father, as long as she is an adult (out of high school). If she
has been raised in a female led family, she is qualified. As a mature adult
female, she will not lose any respect for her father by being charge of him. On
the contrary, this relationship will bring them closer.
Our daughters are still in their teens. When I
have gone out for the day, their father is in charge, and they know to obey
him. But they are permitted to remind him of things. Recently I found my
husband watching TV instead of getting his chores done. (He is not permitted to
watch any TV for this reason.) I told our oldest daughter (with father’s knowledge)
to keep an eye on him and remind him the chores need to be finished by his 10 p.m.
bedtime. He admits having her present helps him focus on all his work and keep
him from breaking any of his rules.
He has a great deal of respect for our daughters
because of their self-confidence and experience in learning to lead in the
home. They are all aware that, as adults, the females will always lead the
males.
A girl should be allowed to tell (not ask) her father what to do.
Many comments have been made about how a daughter would lose respect for her
father if she was allowed to boss him around. That is incorrect. Daughters lose
respect for their fathers when their fathers are bossy to them, when their
fathers act better than their mother. A girl’s respect toward her father only
grows when she sees how he can be obedient to the ladies in his life. She
learns respect for her father when he cleans her room and washes her clothes.
Our daughters highly respect their father at supper when their brother and
father stand and wait for the girls to sit and allow the females to fill their
plates and start eating before being permitted to start their own dinner.
A mother is the one who needs to teach her daughters how to lead,
what is right, what to expect from men. A daughter needs to learn to lead both
brothers and father through the eyes of her mother. Yes, a girl will make
mistakes, sometimes hurting the males in the family. But they must accept it,
and she will learn through the experience.
I never liked the idea that some men are submissive. Men are by
nature obedient. Through school (in the past), sports, military, and jobs they
are required to be obedient, much more so than women. It is their nature to be
obedient and to work. It is the nature of the female to be sexual/sensual and
to direct the men in their lives. If daughters don't learn this in their home,
they will have a hard time when they get older. And if sons don't learn
obedience in their home, and from watching their father, they will not grow up
properly.
Female Superiority at Home: What woman wouldn’t want to have a marriage where what she said
was final, where her husband would obey her and desire her. What wife wouldn’t
want a home where the housework, cleaning, laundry, washing dishes, scrubbing
the bathroom, was her husband’s job; she would be free to pursue more
fulfilling interests? How many would enjoy those more fulfilling pursuits
during the day while he is at work earning money for her to enjoy? What wife
wouldn’t love to have control of his paycheck and manage all the finances? What
female wouldn’t love to be worshiped as a goddess?
If only men could understand that female superiority would be the
ideal for them. Men are created for worship. Women are created to receive
worship.
Indeed, most men worship women in one way or another without necessarily using the term. But how many women want to worship a man? None that I know of.
In order for females to be worshipped, they naturally have to be
superior to men. If we are to be worshiped, are we not goddesses? Who would
ever call a man a “god”? That would be blasphemous.
I believe our society is moving quickly to female superiority in
all areas. Yes, all females are superior; they are born that way, it is not
something they learn. But we do need to learn, and accept, that we are
superior. It is hard for women to understand how we are born superior, it is
just in our nature.
Men understand that much better. The husband is to “love, worship,
and obey” his wife. Her protection, her well-being, her desires, her pleasure,
and her comfort are his primary concern, and he would, if called upon to do so,
lay down his life for her.A few years ago, I sat my husband down and told him if I was going
to make the decisions, I demanded he obey me without question. Here are some new household arrangements I instituted as a result of that “discussion”:
Housework: My husband does almost all of it. It is his job, to be expected
of him. I do not micromanage him, or stand over him telling him what to do. He
knows his chores and does them well. I offered to help with some, but he told
me I didn’t need to bother with mundane housework when I should be pursuing
more fulfilling things.
Finances: I decided to close our joint checking account. My husband now
deposits his paycheck into my personal account to which he has no access. He is
to keep $10 on him at all times and let me know if he spends any so I can give
him more. He gets no allowance. After closing the one account I started paying
bills and managing all finances. We use MS Money so he still doesn’t have
access to any money himself.
Children: We have 2 daughters 15 and 10, and a son 13. Any expression of
wife worship is hidden from them. But as a family we do show female
superiority. My husband and son both open doors for us, and both stand whenever
my daughters or I enter a room and remain till we are seated.
The same holds for dinner; they stand till we are seated and allow
us to fill our plates and start eating before they fill their plates. Our son
helps his father clean the table and dries the dishes.
A few months ago, they discussed if our son would want to do
something special for his sisters to show his awareness of their female
superiority. He chose to make their beds and straighten their rooms every
morning. The girls are not allowed to tell him what to do, but may ask him
politely to do something or get her something. He is not required to obey, but,
as mentioned earlier, he takes their requests as an order and still obeys. His
father has been a good mentor.
Every family is different with different ways to do things.
Everything here sounds like we have it down perfect, but we have problems and
daily issues come up to deal with.
Are our boys always obedient and worshipful? Yeah, right! As they
say, life happens. They need to be reminded by the females who they are. Female
superiority is natural, and someday will be accepted by everyone, but we all have
a lot to learn about it.
A wife who understands female superiority has had to come to the
realization that her husband is inferior, and women have a hard time thinking
of their husbands in a negative term like inferior, despite the overwhelming
evidence. But once a wife sees herself as superior, she will find it easier to
accept a husband’s worship. And I truly believe that most husbands today
understand, even if subconsciously, that they are inferior to their wives.Husbands who accept female superiority as a fact, and their own
consequent inferiority, as my husband does, would have no problem after they came
home from work and started in on dinner and their chores.
My husband does accept and understand his inferiority. He knows he
has to obey me even when he disagrees. He comes home from a hard days work
(where they don't have A/C!) and, after taking a shower, start supper, clean
after supper and do many other chores. He is no longer allowed to watch TV
(takes his focus away from focusing on my desires, and takes too long to get it
back), has to be in bed by 10 pm (works 6:30 - 3pm). After working all week,
never sees or has access to any of the money he earns.
He has accepted all this to worship me. He does it for me. I am
the lucky one. I can enjoy myself doing something I love and come home to a hot
cooked meal. The guys wait till us girls start to eat and they take what is
left over. I have the evening to enjoy with the kids, watch something on TV, or
go out with some girlfriends and come home late and not have to explain
anything to him. I can sleep late and wake up to fresh coffee, he has to put on
another pot when he leaves for work.
I can spend money on whatever I want (within my budget). He
occasionally has to work a Saturday. That extra money goes to me, allows me to
buy something special, which I show him so he knows what his overtime bought me.
(He specifically requested that I do this.)
I don't want to discuss our sex life, but I pursue it when I want
it, not him. And I am worshipped.
Should a wife be allowed to pursue her pleasure whenever she
wants?
There are many blogs out there where the husband has a fantasy
about his wife having sex with other men. For most I am sure this is just a
fantasy, and in real life they would be devastated; or perhaps this should be
allowed in the marriage. I have yet to read anywhere that a wife would want the
husband to be with another female.
After reading these articles, my husband and I discussed this. Even
when I am not interested in intercourse with him, I usually feel very sexual.
He admitted he often thinks of me with another man, and it excites him. When he
in doing his housework, or following a direct order from me, he thinks of me
having sex with a couple of men I am friends with.
I asked if I had his permission to be with them. His response was
that I don't need to ask for his permission for anything I do. He wants me to
pursue anything that pleases me, from buying a new dress to making love to my
friends.
I have no interest in sex with anyone outside of our marriage. But
a couple of years ago at a company Christmas party, things got a little wild.
Another co-worker and I had a nice long kiss while my husband watched. When it
was over, I turned to my husband and told him to get my friend and me a drink,
while I sat down next to him. My husband obeyed and brought us back our drinks
while the co-worker kept his hand on my thigh. That has been a recurring
fantasy of his.
I think an acceptable alternative to cuckolding is for wives to
feel free to kiss other men as I have; masturbate as often as she likes with
him watching and always deny him, dress sexy for other men, or watch adult
movies but not him. A wife should always be encouraged to allow herself the
pleasures he is denied.
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(Note to readers: Mark Remond informs me he has lost contact
with Beckie Sue, so it is unlikely that any reader comments or questions addressed
to her will be responded to.)