"I was amazed at how beautiful of a woman she was. Although I am not at liberty to describe her, I will say that she is an attractive woman in her mid‑forties. She carried herself with a confidence and a boldness that made her even more attractive to me. She was dressed in a white blouse, a leather miniskirt, and she had on a classy-looking leather jacket."
What else I do have you will find below:
- a personal profile (that appeared in some early versions of her website) and two interviews;
- one signed "Richard H" and
- one conducted by the well-known popular online FLR advocate Te-Erika Patterson (taken from her website "Conquer Him" and reprinted with her permission).
Finally, to round things out, I include one of my favorite entries from Mrs. Sutton's voluminous treasure trove of "Real Stories," one of a great many that disprove the oft-repeated canard that "Stealth Submission" doesn't work. It can and does, as witness my own marriage and many, many others that were cited by Elise Sutton over the two-decades span of her website.
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Personal Profile of Elise Sutton:
Psychologist, Female Supremacist and Wife
I attended a northeastern University from 1975‑1978 where I received my Bachelor's degree in Psychology. After which I went to work for a school district as a Psychologist. For my post‑graduate studies, I specialized in the area of Human Sexuality. As part of my research, I joined a pansexual organization that focuses on B&D and D&S in loving, caring relationships. It was there that I had my first experiences with openly Dominant Females and submissive males. It didn't take me long before I realized that I was a natural Dominant.
I studied the subject of Female
Domination in great detail by reading lots of books and material on the
subject, as well as interviewing a great number of people who were active in
this lifestyle. I made many friends including a woman who would become a close
friend. She happened to be a professional Dominatrix. I agreed to team up with
her whenever she had a client that requested to be dominated by two Females.
This provided me with some much-needed extra income as well as another great
opportunity to do additional research.
Once I received my Master's degree, I
decided to do something unique. I advertised as a Dominant Female Psychologist
who could help a submissive male understand his desires. I had no idea that I
would receive so many inquiries. I had really discovered an area of need out
there. That was ten years ago and since then I have helped many submissive
males come to terms with their feelings and desires, as well as trying to get
their wives to understand them and to take their proper place in their
marriage, which is to be in control and in charge. As far as my belief system
goes, I have grown a lot over the years and I am now a Female Supremacist.
A Female Supremacist is a woman who
believes that women are the superior sex over men. She is a woman who has come
to believe that society would be better served if it were run by women instead
of men. A Female Supremacist believes that women should be in positions of
authority from government clear down to marriage, where the wife should rule
over the husband. A Female Supremacist believes that women and men are
different. She believes that they both have strengths and weaknesses, but that
the woman has more strengths than the man and that she contains the traits that
are best fitted to be in a position of authority.
Politically, I am a Libertarian. I
believe in less government and in personal freedom. I believe that the government
should stay out of people's lives and out of their business, especially out of
the bedroom. Ultimately, I would like to see a woman President with female
majorities in Congress and on the Supreme Court. I believe that if women ran
this country and the world, there would be fewer wars, less violence, and
children and animals would be better cared for. Men are too violent and they
are lead around far too much by what is between their legs. That is why women
should lead them.
Spiritually, I am a Christian. I grew up
Catholic and I was very devotee. In college, I doubted the existence of God and
I searched for the truth. I was a Unitarian for a while. Finally, I could not
deny the strong beliefs that I had developed as a child, so I returned to
Christianity. I did not return to the Catholic church since it was run by men
and has a male dominant hierarchy. For the same reason, I did not join any main-line
Protestant churches. Finally, I found an independent Christian church that has
a predominately female leadership that encourages its members to read the Bible
and to seek God themselves, and not to rely on a religious structure to dictate
to them what they must believe. I believe that God is neither female nor male,
but that God is a Spirit with both female and male traits. I believe that God
is a loving, caring, merciful, peaceful being who loves everyone
unconditionally. All of these traits are found more in women than in men. I
believe that is why Christ was conceived by God and a woman, totally apart from
a man. The result was the only loving, caring, peaceful man who ever walked the
earth. I believe in Christ's resurrection and I worship and pray to Jesus as a
resurrected, almighty Savior who has both female and male characteristics, and
not as a mortal male figure that most churches envision.
I embrace a very active sexual lifestyle
and I don't feel guilty or condemned about it. God is the creator of both
genders and he is the creator of Sex. Sexuality is a very important aspect of
life. I am also tolerant of other religions and beliefs, however I must admit
that I have a real problem with any religion that makes women wear veils or
treats them as second-class citizens.
Personally, I am in my mid-forties* and I am married. I met my husband in college. We dated for four years and we were married in 1982. I introduced him to this lifestyle and I had no trouble getting him to surrender control of our relationship over to me. We do not have any children (my choice), but we are the parents to two beautiful Golden Retrievers. As far as my hobbies go, I love to read, I love to go to the movies as long as they are not violent (I abhor violence), I love animals, I love to travel, and of course I love my husband and I love to dominate him. ###
(Note from Thomas Lavalle: I
downloaded this material from Ms. Sutton’s website in 2007. If she were in her
mid-40s in 2007, she would likely be in her mid-60s as of this writing, 2023). I
pray that, despite the disappearance of her website, she is doing well and
still dominating her husband.)
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My Interview With Elise Sutton: The Leather Couch by “Richard H.”
(Downloaded from Elise Sutton’s website by Thomas Lavalle in February, 2007)
(The following article is the edited version that appeared recently in a publication. Due to copyright reasons the author's full name and the name of the publication are omitted. I am in the process of negotiating the right to reprint the entire unedited version of the interview portion of this article.—E.S.)
I came across Ms Elise Sutton's website purely by accident one day and I was fascinated by what I read. Now I am not afraid to admit that I have on occasion fantasized before about being sexually dominated by a powerful woman. I think that most men have, if they are totally honest. Perhaps it is being taken captive on an island by Amazon women and forced to be their sex slave or harking back to being in school and fantasizing about the attractive substitute teacher forcing you to stay after class then making you do sexual favors for her. If you are a red-blooded American male, you must admit to the occasional rise you get from watching Xena, the Warrior Princess, or at least admit that you were tempted to go home and dream about Michelle Pfeiffer as Catwoman. Let's face it, being the sex-obsessed males that we are, we have many fantasies and being dominated by a powerful woman, or a group of powerful women, ranks right up there.
So when I come across a website that talks about women dominating men, I must at least check it out. I've come across a number of the sex industry rip-off sites that tease us men and then expects us to pay dearly to see more. I've been fooled once or twice by these sites, but I have learned how to spot a website that is a cookie cutter site created by major porn companies. Don't get me wrong, I don't spend all of my free time searching the web for sexual fantasies. However, after one has checked his e‑mail, checked his stock prices, sports scores, and the news, it never hurts to be a little adventurous before signing off the web for the night. It never ceases to amaze me what one can find on the Web. Cults, militia groups, every kind of religion imaginable, every kind of civic and social clubs imaginable, and every kind of lifestyle imaginable. Everyone and everything has a website and I am fascinated by it all.
Well, one night while I was being adventuresome, I came across Elise Sutton's Female Supremacy website. What separated her website from all of the others is that this woman claimed to be a Psychologist who loved to dominate men. I was intrigued so I read more. It seemed that this woman combined her two loves in life, psychology and female domination. She had built a practice from analyzing men with submissive fantasies and now she wanted to share her knowledge with wives all across the country via the Internet. As I read more, I was even more amazed. This woman was really a Dominatrix who practiced psychology. She loved to wear leather, use whips, and the whole S&M scene. Yet she claimed that this helped her to get submissive men to open up about their fantasies and desires. Fascinating. I had to read more.
I came to her personal profile page and I was even more amazed. This woman is religious as well. No, no, I don't mean that she is spiritual and is into New Age or Wicca. This woman is a devoted Christian. I am serious. She's a Psychologist who believes in female supremacy, who practices S&M, and who loves Jesus. Just the kind of woman every man wants to take home to meet mother. I had to bookmark this page and check back from time to time to see what this woman was up to. Ms Sutton had posted on her website “The Psychoanalysis of the Submissive Male.” The purpose of this procedure was to help the wife or girlfriend analyze her submissive man. This was to help build intimacy in their relationship, help the man come to “terms” with his submission, and help propel the wife to the head of the marriage or relationship.
It was fascinating reading and I just had to order her “other procedures” that she advertised on her site. I contacted Ms Sutton by e‑mail and ordered these procedures. I had to send a self-addressed stamped envelope to her P.O. Box number and a modest fee to get them.
I am glad that I did. These procedures were wild and they kept getting wilder and wilder. I wish I could describe them to you, but my editor would have turned three shades of red. Kinky doesn't even begin to describe these psychoanalysis procedures. However, I must admit there were times I was sorry that I didn't have a dominant woman performing these on me. Besides the great sex the couples were having who ordered these procedures, the psychoanalysis questions at the end of the exercises were really thought-provoking. I started to reflect on my own childhood and past relationships.
As I kept checking back to her website, I really enjoyed reading her Question and Answer Forum. As I read this forum that she updates on a regular basis, I started to change my opinion about this woman. She was the real thing, I found myself thinking. She is sincere and she knows what she is talking about. This is no dumb or crazy woman that runs this website. Perhaps she really is a Psychologist and perhaps she really believes all of this that she writes about Female Supremacy.
That was it. I had to meet this woman. I had to interview her. I emailed Elise Sutton every day for almost a month requesting an interview. Finally, my persistence paid off and she agreed. I had to promise no pictures and I had to promise not to describe her or reveal where she lived. Naturally, I agreed.
I arrived at her suburban office, close to a major East Cost city, and it looked like the kind of office you would expect a Psychologist to have. It had a waiting area and two large offices. The waiting area had an array of fetish and female domination books and magazines. I sat and looked through the pictures of leather‑clad women dominating submissive men while I waited for her to finish a telephone call. When she was finished, she opened the one door and called me to her office.
I was amazed at how beautiful of a woman she was. Although I am not at liberty to describe her, I will say that she is an attractive woman in her mid‑forties. She carried herself with a confidence and a boldness that made her even more attractive to me. She was dressed in a white blouse, a leather miniskirt, and she had on a classy-looking leather jacket. I sat across her large oak desk as I interviewed her. Besides the large oak desk, the office had plush maroon carpeting, a large black leather couch, and four black leather chairs. She had her degrees hanging on the wall, along with some photos of women wearing sexy leather outfits. A few of the pictures featured her.
As I interviewed her, I was impressed with how intellectual and intelligent she was. Yet, she talked like a very down-to-earth, girl-next‑door type. She also had this aura about her. Her female superiority beliefs radiated from her. I never felt like she was talking down to me, yet I never felt like her equal as we talked. She had a way of looking through me, which made me feel a little uneasy, although I must confess that I was also sexually aroused as I interviewed her.
When we were finished the interview, she asked me if I wanted to see her other room in her office. We went back through the reception area and into the other door. I was amazed at what I saw. It was a huge room full of bondage equipment. It had black rubber padding on the walls and red casino carpeting on the floor. Hanging from the walls were all kinds of whips, paddles, and other S&M toys. If I hadn't just talked to her for over an hour, I probably would have run for my life. She gave me a brief tour and description of what each piece of bondage equipment was for and how she utilized it. I must admit, I started to really get aroused but being the professional journalist that I am, I pulled myself together.
After the tour, she showed me the door and she thanked me for my time. I, of course, thanked her for her time as she was the one who did me the favor. As I walked to my car I thought to myself, “too bad she is married.” No, I could never be in total submission to a woman. Or could I?
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FEMDOM: WHY EVERY
WOMAN SHOULD DOMINATE HER RELATIONSHIP
Excerpts of Interview With Elise
Sutton posted by Te-Erika Patterson
on April 13, 2013, reprinted with her permission
(Note from Thomas Lavalle: The complete
interview (well worth reading its its entirety) is available on Te-Erika’s
website, Conquer Him. Ms. Patterson’s gateway website is LovingFLR.Com (“Create
Loving Relationships That Empower Women”). According to Te-Erika, Elise “is a real person with a real husband but
she was fearful of using her real name. That is not her real name.”)
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Elise Sutton offered me the opportunity to learn more about
the unique relationship model she presents in her website Female Superiority.Com. ~ Te-Erika
T-EP: Do you believe all women have a dominant side to their personalities?
ES: I view dominance, when it comes to relationships, as more of a mindset and an attitude than a personality trait. We are what we think we are. I know a lot of women that are quiet, reserved and rather laid-back who are the dominant partner in their marriage. So to me, dominance has nothing to do with temperament but it has everything to do with attitude. Therefore, I believe that any woman can assume the dominant role in her marriage or any personal relationship. And furthermore, I believe women should be the dominant partner within male/female relationships. Why? Because women are best equipped biologically and intellectually to be the head of the household.
I have in my private collection over 500 articles written in
the past ten years that talk about the superiority of women and how it’s
becoming a woman’s world. Articles with such titles as: “The End of Men”
(Atlantic Weekly), “It’s a Woman’s World, the phasing out of men” (National
Review), and “The incredible shrinking Y (chromosome)” (New York Times).
Women have become the main decision makers within marriages
as more and more women are in charge of the checkbooks and the bank accounts.
Women are becoming the main breadwinners in many families, and even in families
where the husband has a higher income it is the wife who makes the financial
decision.
I also believe women are sexually dominant by nature. Again,
when I say “dominant” I do not necessarily mean aggressive. While more women
are choosing to be more sexually aggressive with their male partners, some
dominant women prefer to be sexually passive in bed with a man. Be that as it
may, the woman who understands how males and females are sexually designed will
be able to take control in the bedroom using her natural feminine power.
Men are often led by their lower heads and the smart woman
is the woman who learns how to utilize the male sex drive to her advantage. Too
many women become victims of the male sex drive instead of taking control of it
via the power Nature has bestowed on the female gender. And then there is also
the biology of the female orgasm vs. the male orgasm, which is a fascinating
study itself. I often tease my husband that sex was designed for the woman’s
pleasure, not the man’s pleasure, and the male orgasm can never measure up to the
intensity and pleasure of a woman’s orgasm(s) once she comes into her sexual
prime.
T-EP: Why is it beneficial for women to recognize these traits?
ES: The female contains the attributes best fitted to be in
authority within a marriage or a male/female relationship. Women are the gender
with the womb, the child-bearers, the life-givers, thus the nurturers and the
gender best able to see the big picture and make decisions for the collective
good. Women are by nature more kind-hearted. Combine this with the biological
and intellectual strengths of the female gender, and it is foolish for any
woman to surrender control of her life over to a man. 50/50 is better than male
dominance but female dominance is best of all as it is able to bring harmony to
a relationship.
T-EP: Why do so many men want to be dominated by women?
ES: There is a natural born desire within most men that
causes them to desire to be dominated by a woman. I believe that males are born
with this desire and I also believe that this desire is enhanced through a
male’s childhood experiences with his female authority figures. A male is
carried in the womb of a woman, he is birthed into this world by a woman, he is
nurtured at the breasts of a woman, he is disciplined by the loving hands of a
woman, and he is loved and comforted by a woman. The male gender learns early
on that there is something special, almost magical, about the female gender.
She is different than he is. She is lovely, beautiful, caring, and nurturing.
In some men, this revelation only gets stronger as he matures. He realizes that
being under the loving authority of a woman is what gives his life a peaceful
and meaningful existence.
T-EP: How can a woman learn to become more dominant in her life?
ES: I would recommend the following tips if a woman wants to
unleash her dominance and attract a man that is open to a female led
relationship:
1) Self-image
A woman should begin to view herself as the dominant and
superior female that she is. This means that a woman should never settle for
any man that does not treat her like a Queen. Expect a man to worship you and
revere you. Do not settle for macho males who think they are God’s gift to
women. Seek out a man who wants to support you in your life goals, who is open
to doing housework and chores for you and who realizes he is blessed to be in a
relationship with you. He doesn’t have to be a soft male or a feminine male
(unless that is what you want) but he must have that submissive heart.
There are more men out there that want to be submissive to
women than you can imagine.
Deep inside, men are attracted to bold, confident women who
walk with a dominant demeanor. And how do you get that demeanor? It comes back
to your attitude. Believe you are a dominant woman worthy of male submission
and you will become a dominant woman.
2) Unleash your female sexual power
I know some feminists hate this advice but I really believe
in it and it has done wonders for me and a lot of women I have counseled. How
we look on the outside does reflect how we feel on the inside. Any woman of any
age and any body type can radiate sexuality. In this day and age there are so
many resources available to women. I am not a thin woman and I am no longer a
young woman but when I go out, I dress and carry myself like the sexual woman I
believe that I am. I have learned how to dress, which hair styles make me look
younger, and which cosmetics work best for me. I eat right, I exercise and for
a woman in my mid to late 50’s, I still like to believe I ooze dominance and
sexuality. I love to wear leather clothing because a lot of submissive men have
a real leather fetish. A pair of leather pants or a leather skirt can make me
feel extra sexy and powerful. So I seek to dress sophisticated and sexy.
I am bold and dominant as a woman and how I look on the
outside lets the world know how I feel on the inside. My attitude attracts men
who want to submit to me.
3) Be willing to experiment with Dominance & Submission
in the bedroom with your partner
One of the good things to come out of the “Fifty Shades of
Grey” craze is that it introduced a lot of women to BDSM (or I prefer to call
it D&S). I desire to be the dominant sex partner so I didn’t care for the book
(I like to read erotica where women sexually dominate men).
However, the book did open women up to the concept of what
some might call ‘kinky sex’. My husband and I have practicing FemDom in the
bedroom for decades. Yes, I actually wear fetish clothing (leather, boots,
corsets, etc.) and I have paddles and whips and a strap-on harness and other
‘toys’. I discipline my husband and he worships my body and sex is never
mundane or boring, even after all of these years.
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A Sample From Elise’s “Real Stories” Section
From Wilson Z:
Dear Ms Sutton, My wife was reluctant to try female
domination when I showed her your site. She read over the forums and stories
and articles but she didn’t believe any of it was real, or if it was, the
people were “out there.” I didn’t know what to tell here other than I respected
her intelligence and that I would live according to whatever lifestyle she
would choose for us. I told her all that mattered to me was that she was in
charge and I would go along with whatever she wanted.
I never thought I was being clever but somehow I stumbled
upon an approach that introduced her to the power of female domination without
topping from below. I was sincere when I told her that all I wanted was for her
to be in charge. We did not have to be kinky in the bedroom, she did not have
to wear fetish outfits and we did not have to do anything she read on Elise
Sutton’s site. The only rule was that she makes the rules and I obey them. That
was it and she agreed.
She started slow, not much of a difference in the beginning,
but I went out of my way to do everything she asked of me. My wife took notice
and about a year ago my wife re-read your site because she was looking for a
starting point. She found the article on your site about women shaving their
men’s privates (Eve Hogan’s “He Said, She Said,” bottom of page 17 in “Mainstream Articles” section).
My wife decided that she wanted me to be shaven so she told me that I was to
shave off all of my pubic hair.
Something like that seems so innocent and harmless but the
power it had on me was immense. I felt totally emasculated. I was a little
embarrassed about my condition but I was noticeably aroused sexually. My wife
enjoyed touching my smooth skin around my genitals and she commented how nice
it was to fondle smooth balls.
In the beginning, her rules were very mild. She got to pick
what we watched on television and things like that. My wife was not accustomed
to being in charge so she did not take bold steps at first. But as time went
on, she began to be bolder. She even humiliated me a couple times about my
hairless “region” and one time she reprimanded me rather forcefully because I
had not shaved for two weeks and some of the hair was coming back. Her solution
was a bikini wax in that area. She bought the stuff from her friend who is an
esthetician and my wife performed the bikini wax on me. Talk about hurt, but I
was smoother than ever. She later expanded my “region” for the bikini wax to
include my legs. This made me feel even more emasculated.
My wife began to demand that I do more of my share around
the house. This grew and grew and grew, and now I do most of the housework.
My wife began to take more control of the money. My wife
began to make most of the decisions in our marriage. Some of her decisions have
been the opposite from what I wanted but if I ever fight her or disagree, she
reminds me of our rule, “The only rule is that she makes the rules and I obey
them.” She reminds me that this rule was my idea.
I was just thinking the other day how far we have come. Has
it only been a year? She has become so dominant in such a short time. And to
think that she was against this lifestyle. Now when she reads your site, she no
longer thinks it is kinky or only for people who are “out there.” It all seems
natural to her, and to me.
We are not into B&D or S&M but our marriage is
totally Femdom. The most recent development was when my wife took us down a
road I was certain we would never travel. A year ago I would have bet our house
that my wife would never be interested in cuckolding. However, she met a man
she had dated back in college. He was in town on business and he saw her at a
trade show my wife organized here locally. She told me she was going out with
him “as friends” to catch up on old times. They went to dinner, out to have
some drinks and ended back at his hotel.
She came home very late, I waited up. Upon entering the
house, before I had a chance to ask her about her night, she reached into my
shorts and grabbed my smoothly shaved genitals and gave them a twist as she led
me to the bedroom. She undressed, she pushed me on the bed, she straddled me
and told me that she had just had sex with another man. I was ordered to
perform “clean-up duty.”
She has only cuckolded me that once but now I know she is
capable and she may do it again if she pleases. This was the hardest thing to
submit to but when we discussed it, she reminded me “the only rule is that she
makes the rules and I obey them.” Hearing her talk like this makes me feel at
ease. I have come to trust her decisions and I feel really good about where we
are at as a couple.
My advice to men out there who are as eager as I was for a
female domination marriage is to share that one simple rule with your wife. I
don’t know how any woman would resist that rule. It puts no pressure on her and
she can take the lifestyle into any direction that she wants. All you have to
do is follow her lead.
Elise’s Response:
Wilson, I couldn’t have said it any better. Your marital
directive “the only rule is that she makes the rules and I obey them”is a
simple philosophy that a couple can live by. It is a simple philosophy in how
to live the female domination lifestyle but it covers everything.
You gave your wife the precious gift of agreeing to submit
to her no matter where she decided to take the relationship. She could have
taken the relationship into a very vanilla direction with the only Femdom
elements being domestic. And had she done that, you were fully prepared to
submit to that. You were not going to complain because you made a commitment to
her.
Your submission in the little things (like allowing her to
decide what the two of you will watch on television) gave her the strength to
expand her dominance to bigger things. That led to the shaving of your genitals
and that led her to exercise more authority over you by assigning you more
chores, etc. And your obedience in those areas showed her that she could push
the envelope with you. Now you are in the kind of marriage you always dreamed
about and it has nothing to do with fantasies but it has everything to do with
you submitting to a woman.
[ Note from Thomas Lavalle: In case you arrived here without reading the previous article, here is Part 1 of my tribute to Elise Sutton. ]
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